I had a same sex partner whom I really love. We really love each other that some say it was true love. For better or worst I am always by his side even in his last breath. His last wish is that he wants to be cremated and give his ashes to me, and he wants me to be happy. As of now, I am living alone with his urn. I know that he wants me to move on with my life and don’t want me to live alone. Because living alone brings me sadness and all he wants to me is to be happy.
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My condolences, punkbear. It’s never easy losing someone we love.
Moving on is always a tricky subject. I wish it was just a switch that we can flip instantly and just get on with our lives, but it’s not. What I always tell my clients is that moving on doesn’t mean forgetting; it just means hurting less. So you don’t have to force yourself to move on immediately; these things take time.
Try not to wallow in your memories with him. Meaning don’t just sit in the dark and cry over your loss. If you want to remember him, do it with your friends and others who knew him best. Once you feel the hurt less, start to introduce new things in your life. Meeting new people. Doing new hobbies. Watching new shows. And the more you fill your life with new things, the better you’ll be able to move forward.
I hope this was helpful.
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Our deepest sympathy…Condolence… 
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