Hi. I am NBSB (no boyfriend since birth). It’s not a problem to me before since I am happily enjoying my single season. However, lately I am thinking what if I will be forever single? Well, I am not too young but not too old. I’d say I am in my mid-20s. Any advice that you can give while I am waiting for my special someone?
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Hi Ali. I’d like to share two things with you:
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Have a good sense of who you are. Try to build awareness on the things that are important to you as a person. Relationships aren’t always easy and at times will ask you to make sacrifices or even changes. It’s important to have a good sense of self so that you have a better understanding of the lines you don’t to cross. There are times that people get so swept up in being a relationship (especially their first intense one) that they end up changing who they are completely just to accommodate the other. So improving your self-awareness lowers the chances that you lose yourself completely in that relationship.
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If you want to be in a relationship, it would be advisable to make some effort into being more proactive about it. I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with waiting, but if your lifestyle isn’t conducive to meeting new people or putting yourself into more social situations, then you’re more than likely waiting for nothing. So I’m not saying go crazy and find dates for every night of the week, but at least look at your life and ask yourself if there are opportunities for you to meet that special someone. If you find that you’re life revolves around work-home-commute and that it’s not sufficient for you to find someone or to be found by someone, maybe investing more time and effort into an activity you can share with others (ie gym, sports, boardgames) increases the chances of you meeting new people.
Hope this was helpful. 
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I try to search for my Prince Charming in SAFE manner/places/opps/events/background checks… 
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