Hi. Im just new here. My partner is legally separated and he’s now in the process of reEstablishing his relationship with his kids. For me, it’s not a big deal at all, anything to make him and the kids happy, Im all for it coz’ that’s how much i love him. But lately, I’m starting to overthink/ worry because his ex is somehow in the picture - i know that this is inevitable since they should be ‘co-parenting’ but as the partner, it kinda hurts of course. He kept on assuring me that everything is all about the kids - nothing more, nothing less. But, why am i still worried? Am I that really insecure? Or do i need a concrete assurance so I’ll stop thinking about things.
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Having doubts and insecurities in relationships can be hard. I hope you can communicate your fears and worries with your partner and be assured in what he has to offer in your relationships.
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Yes last night i spoke to him, I cried my heart out like I don’t want to give up just like that. I want to wait for him to be ok with his kids, so we can be finally be free from all the pain brought by the situation and focus on our future plans. He told me he just want his kids to fully understand the situation and assure them that he will always be their father no matter what.
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we welcome you to MIND YOU community @kathygee hoping you’ll feel better about your situation with your partner… that can be tough to be in really… 
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I agree that being transparent with your partner about your worries is a good move. This way he’s aware of things that concern you. I just wanted to add two things: 1) it would be a good idea to also communicate to him what he can do to make you feel more secure (eg more regular dates, better investment in your love language, etc), and 2) overthinking tends to happen because you’re not letting your thoughts out, surely, talking about them helps, but you can also try writing out what you’re thinking and what you’re feeling just to be able to get it out of your head.
Hope this was helpful. 
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